I have to confess something.
I think I’ve confessed this before, but I’m a cyclical thinker.
I am not domestic. Never was. Probably never will be. When I was young, I didn’t have any interest in learning to cook or sew or do anything like that. I preferred to make my siblings watch me perform singing and dancing shows, or hunt for fossils, or be outside, or philosophize about life, or drum up lofty plans for the future. But domestic chores? Dull. And dull has never been my cup of tea.
Things haven’t changed much. I think I forgot this because I’m a home-body. I love home and I love being at home — and somehow it seems like this should go hand-in-hand with domesticity, but it doesn’t.
This was all brought home to me again recently for two reasons:
First, I bought my first vacuum cleaner.
I know. You’re wondering what kind of woman my age has never owned her own vacuum? Well, an undomestic kind, that’s who.
In my defense, we have mostly wood floors, and Mags lives around the corner so I just borrow hers when necessary because we have no place to put a vacuum in here. Before marriage, I had roommates with vacuums. Also, one time I did have one of those car vacuums and I made it work for everything. Then it broke.
Last week a neighbor was selling a brand new one for half price. Now, what kind of mother can I be without a vacuum? No kind. So I had to buy it.
The second thing that made me mourn my domestic goddess nature was that ever since Brian’s been unable to move, I’ve been cooking. A lot. Because he needs to eat healthy stuff and he needs to eat breakfast, which he usually doesn’t bother with.
Now, it’s no secret that I like to cook and I like to eat. I shop organic when possible. I buy from local farms. I’m all about good and healthy food. But I don’t like having to cook three meals a day, every day. I mean, seriously, who has time to cook three meals a day? And shop for three meals a day? And think up that many meals a day?
You people out there cooking three healthy meals a day, what are you on?
My friend Abby recently tried to make me feel better by telling me that part of what I’m missing is that most people don’t think of cooking the way I do. They throw canned soup on the stove, they stick frozen dinners in the oven, they wing it. They make stuff my husband and I don’t typically eat.
Maybe that’s my future.
Still, this is pathetic. Normal people cook and eat three meals a day. (And they have vacuum cleaners.) I can’t tell you how I feel when I think of my poor mother having to cook for a family of 11 (and often more) every day, year after year, in the middle of the country, where there was no take-out for the times you’re pulling your hair out. She is superwoman.
The sad thing is, I’m not a high-powered career woman either. At least if I had that excuse, it wouldn’t be so bad. No time to cook because I’m too busy focusing on my demanding career that has me jet-setting around the world saving millions of lives.
Nope. I work from home. So does my hubby. We’re not saving millions of lives at the moment. And still we forget to eat sometimes. Or we eat at crazy times. Or we get take out. Or whatever.
This does not bode well for being a mom because supposedly children need three meals a day plus snacks. Did you know this? And apparently when two small people come to live in this cramped house with us, it’s going to get dirtier and messier, and there’s going to be more laundry and more chores.
I think I’m in trouble.
Another case in the point: While I was writing this, I was supposed to be making homemade chicken pot pie and steamed broccoli for dinner. Now the hubby is starving so, um, I’m off to the Japanese restaurant for take-out.
Seriously, I’ve got to work on this.
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